Have you ever been to a wedding and the best man or maid-of-honor has nothing prepared?
All too frequently, weddings I have performed have had someone stumbling, trying to think of something to say while talking into the microphone. (Sorry guys, most of the time it is you)!
Toasts can be nerve wracking if you are not used to speaking in front of people, and planning a good one can be overwhelming.
We have seen many toasts over the years, and here is a simple outline you can use to make yours a great one!
- It is important to remember that anything you say needs to be from your heart, and just as important, easy to remember. However, if you can’t memorize your toast, it is ok to read it.
- Toasts are typically 2-3 minutes long.
- Toasts typically happen after dinner, but not always.
- Your DJ or Wedding Planner should let you know.
- Be sure to hold the microphone about 1 inch from your mouth. It is easy to turn down volume, harder to turn in up.
- When a mic is at a louder volume, you get that hollow feedback that hurts everyone’s ears.
- What to talk about
- How did you Meet the bride and groom. (Yes, you might even be the brother or sister, but some people at the reception might not know it).
- Describe the great Character attributes of the person who asked you to stand up for them, and how you have appreciated that in your life.
- Share a serious or funny Story/memory about your life involving them.
- Share a Memory or event that includes both the bride and groom, if you have one. If not, say something of appreciation or character about the person marrying your friend, or both!
- Toast the marriage and future of the Bride and Groom.
- Notice I have capitalized 5 letters in each sentenced. They make an acronym of MCSMT, or as I like to say McSmit. This might help you remember your toast if you are memorizing it.
- When finished with your toast, pass the microphone to the next person toasting, or back to the MC/DJ who will be waiting close by.
- How do you get better at telling a toast
- Practice it in front of the mirror.
- Feel free to be creative!
- Keep it less than 5 minutes.
- Keep it rated G or PG rated. Remember that kids and grandparents are in the room.
We hope this simple outline will help your toast be a success!